Alastair Devine

2010 January 05

Created by Terrence Higgins Trust 9 years ago
It is now 6 months since Kevin passed away. I missed him so much. I am proud to have been able to class him as my little brother and it has brought great comfort to me that Janet and I have chatted so much and I feel priviledged to have shared him as a brother with Janet. At this time of the year it is most difficult because Kevin loved the excitement of Christmas so much and I miss his rude card and presents. I have been asked if I will upload the tribute I paid to my little bro at the funeral. I willingly do so as I hope it shows what Kevin meant to me and the sort of person Kevin was. Happy Christmas Baby Badger - u know I am hugging Scooby and wearing the watch constantly....love you so much darlin xxxxx We are here today to celebrate and remember the life of Kevin. Firstly, I feel I need to explain who I am and why I am stood before you today. I had the great honour and privilege of having a truly special friendship with Kev - one that I will always cherish. As I am an only child, Kev and I grew very close to one another and I am proud to have seen Kev like the little brother I have never had. Kev and I were very close even to the point that he hardly ever called used our first names - it was mainly Bunnykins or Baby Badger. And it is this closeness that allowed us to chat openly over the years of our life, loves and death - I knew Kev inside out and we had no secrets from one another. Kev meant the absolute world to me and since his death I have been left with a huge void in my life which I know no-one will fill. I knew the good Kev, the bad Kev, the cheeky Kev and the naughty Kev. And it was in one of many heart-to-heart discussions that we said that if which ever of us died the first - the other would give the address at the funeral. I just didn’t realise it would come so soon. And I know he is looking down at me now saying “ just get on with it Bunny.” I cant believe you have made me do this Kev! Kev and I chatted endlessly about the loves in his life - his family, his partner, his work, his friends, his love of music and travel, his Scooby obsession and his beloved Sprite. All of you here will have your own special memories of Kev that you will cherish. It seemed that virtually every other week a postcard would drop through the door with Kev in another destination - I always said I didn’t know anyone who got more holidays than him. The postcards always said “Hi Bunnykins”, followed by a description of the holiday so far and then - in typical Kev fashion - a description of the local men - whether they be Greek, Spanish, Italian, Irish - usually using the terms that Kev became infamous for Woof Woof! And Ding Dong! Following each holiday a jiffy bag always landed through my door - more often than not with a key ring - god knows how many keys he thought I owned - but I will treasure the cards and gifts always. I will miss my birthday and Christmas cards - always with a scantily-clad male on the front. I always returned the favour with a risqué calendar - which many of you will have seen over the years. Last weekend Matt and myself met to chat and console one another. All day it had been glorious sunshine and we had arranged to meet and walk along a canal. At the very moment we started walking the heavens opened and thunder and lightening started. I know it was Kev in his own way having fun making us drenched! It was also only then that I found out that when Kev was challenged over his latest risqué calendar - he denied to his sister it was his and said it was Matt’s ! As you may be aware Kev was very careful with money. I recall mainly our meets for my birthdays. Lunch at The Living Room in York - Kev amazed at the prices and even more stunned when I suggested ordering a £25 bottle of Chablis. He would have been proud of Matt at the weekend - I bought him a blackcurrant and soda and it only cost 43p! He seemed stunned when I was allowed to choose my birthday present in Meadowhall and I chose a G-Star Raw t-shirt - he couldn’t believe the cost. But the true friend he was he still bought it for me. Kev loved Kylie - I recall the Kylie concert when Kev and Michelle came to mine and my partner Daron’s hotel room and drank champagne before the concert - then we danced at the concert - admiring the male dancers of course - but then Michelles shoes hurt her and Kev put her to bed and then came out drinking and partying the night away. I loved Kev’s accent - which he always said he didn’t have - and that it was me that had the appalling Hull accent - we often made fun of each other but loved each other to bits. One of Kev’s proudest moments was being appointed to his job with Doncaster College. He loved his job so much - though on his first day was slightly apprehensive - he contacted me to ask just what I thought his job as Director of Planning entailed because he didn’t really know - but as the tributes on the college website have shown - Kev was a huge success. Often in death people have regrets over things not said. I can say that I have no regrets. Kev knew how deeply I loved and cared for him and I know his feelings for me. We said it all to each other - he once said it was scary how much we knew about each other but that was an amazing feeling for us both. A person who we could say absolutely anything to - and seek guidance, advice, whatever, Over the years we have both gone through major troubles and torments - we have cried buckets together but also had some wildly funny and amazing conversations - which I will treasure forever. Even towards the end of his life Kev was still concerned about others - asking about mine or Darons welfare. My most treasured possession is the last Birthday card he sent me recently. It shows what sort of guy Kev was thinking of others - featuring the scantily-clad male as usual - it reads “Happy Birthday Baby Badger, To my bestest friend in the whole world ever, have an amazing birthday, thanks for always being there for me Lots of Love and huge birthday huggles Kev” My memories of my darling Kev are so dear to me. Please remember Kev in your own special way. I know I am going to miss you for the rest of life. Sleep well baby badger - Love you so so much.